Posted by Kiran
What can we as GLBTQ adults do to show our support of those that are fighting a struggle we may have already conquered? You’ve come out, your professional and personal life is amazing, life is good. Kiran, I don’t want to have to feel the anxiety, the sadness and the rage, that despair I felt when I was 14 or 15, the loneliness of 16 and 17…The begging and pleading that was 18 and please-oh-please let there be someone, anyone out in the world like me.
The thing is, if you don’t…If I don’t. If we all, as adults…don’t stand up and say, “I am gay, I am happy, and I am proud.” who will? If more celebrities don’t come out, like Chely Wright, Ellen, etc…Mainstream culture will continue to marginalize and dismiss us as somehow ‘less’ in society all based on who we love.
The suicides will continue, and any child dying due to feeling alone and helpless because they are gay, trans*, bisexual…Is one child too many.
When does it stop? When do we as a nation stand up and say, “No more. It ends now.” when do my fellow GLBTQ adults say, “I am out, I am successful, and you can be too.” instead of hiding behind a computer where it’s safe. Places like glbtq and straight youth centers are few and far between, and glbtq meetings at coffee shops, dances, etc. just don’t happen anymore. When does our own community stand back and say, “We have to show the kids out there that’s it’s going to be okay.” How many kids in tiny backwater towns where it’s just NOT okay to be GLBTQ are going to kill themselves? How are they going to know if the community as a whole doesn’t rise up and say, “I exist, perhaps even in your town! I survived, and so can you.” worse, if these kids have a disability they’re ALREADY being picked on. Adding being gay on top of that is like, “I am a target for bullying!! Make fun of me!” and bullies these days will miss no opportunity to harass them nonstop. They’re malicious and cruel, and with the addition of Facebook, Twitter, and social media in general–The torment can literally never end.
You can say, “Where were their parents?” but they’ve probably went to the school and they were ignored! What kind of lackluster bullshit anti-bullying policy is that?! IT’S NOT, THAT’S WHAT. That’s not a policy, it’s a “cover our asses and say the right things so we don’t get sued.” But when it comes time to enforce it?! Nope. No dice. Didn’t do it. And now those children are DEAD and they are going to stay dead and even if they rewrote the policy it won’t bring them back. I want to work in educational policy for GLBT youth so this stops happening, and no school can ever ignore this sort of thing again. I want to leave them with no course of action *but* to take action! Staying silent and not addressing these issues when they were brought directly to the schools in question by family, friends, and teachers? For shame.
That is not a policy. That is not anti-discrimination. It is the height of ignorance, and it is despicable.
The GLBTQ adult community, the college students, the working professionals–We cannot stay silent. We have to realize that for so many of today’s youth (yes, still!), there is no light at the end of the tunnel. There is nowhere to go, no-one to talk to. If my writing this can help one person, it’s a start. It will never be ‘enough’ but it’s a bit of headway on a long and uphill battle.
Stand up, take action. Don’t let these children suffer alone. Make changes. Speak out. I will be.